Rant
There are many times I may mention my extended family and there are times when they don’t even warrent a mention. I feel we are quite lucky in the fact that our contact with them is quite limited. Thank god. I know some people are big into seeing their aunties,uncles and 23 odd cousins every so often. Not me. I have a very close relationship with my immediate family. The brother and the sisters. That’s all I need. Sure seeing the aunties and uncles once a year is enough for me. Some might see it as selfish. See it however you want. This mentality was re-enforced yesterday when the brother and his gf stayed over at ours. They were going to a wedding of our aunt’s sister-in-law’s daughters. Still with me?! Good. I think there is a big rural/urban divide here because my brother does make an effort to keep in touch with as many of our extended family as possible. I sometimes think he goes out looking for more relatives. As if we don’t have enough. The aunt was invited. This is the aunty who says our gayness as an illness and sees Mammy2 as my gay architect partner. I must say Mammy2 think its all funny and always makes sure she has lots of big drawings under her arm whenever we meet up with this aunty. So this aunty and the sister-in-law who knew Mam very well were chin-wagging about how they couldn’t believe we didn’t take things any futher with the hospital.
Firstly, its none of their god-damn business what we did or didn’t do regards the hospital and anything do with with Mam and they must have little to do 5 years down the line to still be dragging that ole argument about. Secondly even if we did decide to take a case against the hospital what good would it do in the end? Stop the same thing happening again? I doubt it. The only thing it would do was churn up old wounds that we are still trying to deal with. I don’t see any bonus to it. We still have a box of Mam’s medical records sitting in the wardrobe. And you know what else? If we did decide to do something, chances are if would never be enough for them. The same as it would never be enough for us. Nothing is bringing her back and bitching about her kids does little to make was want to allow them to be part of our family. Thank god for my sisters and brother. We don’t need anyone else.
