Relationships and all that jazz…
They are a funny thing aren’t they? One of our mates is recently out of a long-term relationship and so she’s single but has started seeing someone and is so cute about the whole thing. She is besotted and its great to see. She put so much into the previous relationship and yet it still didn’t work out and now she is being treated really well and the other person is as into her as she is into them and I guess all we can do is wait and see how it pans out. For the moment its all cute txts and dates and its exactly what she needs right now. And for the people who keep going on about rebound romances etc, so what if it is? If they are both going in with their eyes wide open then so what? I admire her so much for what she did. She took a look at her relationship when she was still in it and asked herself was this really what she wanted and how she saw herself being treated? I think for most of us we continue on with our relationships without really stepping back and taking a look at it.
It seems to be the month for relationship stuff. Another mate is having a hard time with her partner and is getting tired of being the only one doing any work in it. I sometimes thank god that myself and Mammy2 have gotten all the crap out of the way in ours and can just focus on being a good partner. Without putting ourselves up a a pedalstal and saying aren’t we fab we did go through a lot. From when Mam was sick to taking on the kid which put a big strain on the relationship. At some stages I didn’t know whether we’d see it through to the other end. But even at times when I had my misgivings, when I thought are we supposed to be together, I could never envision her with anyone else but me. It was then that I knew no matter what life threw at us we were going to get through it. Thank god we did. 10 years later she’s still putting up with my country-music loving, eurovision madness 
I’ve got a good un!
Enough of the psycho babble, what brought all that on? Sheesh. Anyhew, the last attempt was not a success, but I may have mentioned that already. Of course we were disappointed but you move on. In one way it was good because a workmate is going through the same setup, except shes going the direct route. Trying with her husband. I think they have been trying for the last 2 and half years and I really feel for her as all around her friends are getting pregnant and the latest is her sister-in-law. She told me she just burst into tears when she heard. It is so hard for her as I can imagine. I mean the family pressue and so on and I really wish some people would get sensitivy lessons when dealing with these sort of situations as the mother-in-law came out and said to my mate “Sometimes you just need to get on with it” as if she hadn’t been trying at all? WTF? Thankfully the sister-in-law is a bit more sensitive and hasn’t been going on about it to my mate. I told my mate to tell her that whilst she is really happy for her, she doesn’t need to know every detail about the pregnancy. Its not her being selfish, its more self preservation. My mate though is too nice to do that. I’d do it for her.
